A Letter to the One Who Will Pursue Me

I don’t want you to pursue me just because you are lonely. Find your happiness in being alone confidently knowing that at the right time I would surely come along. I want you to pursue me when you are ready and you are not in a hurry. I know there will be tiring and lonely nights but I want you to keep in mind that I exist and I am worth the wait. 

I don’t want you to pursue me when you are recently dealing from a devastated relationship. I don’t want to hear dramas on how your ex broke your heart and how you were played. Sure, it’s nice to heal someone else’s heart, but I don’t want to be the one who will do it. I don’t want to be the one who will do the fixing. I want you to pursue me when you’re already whole and mature enough to know that rebound is not your thing.

I don’t want you to pursue me to play your games. Just so you know I’m good at it, but I don’t want to do the playing. I’ve been in a no strings attached and friendship-with-mutual-feelings kind of relationships and I’m good at keeping feelings at bay and trashing emotions, however I’m tired enough to go back to those helpless situations again. Don’t pursue me after a night of chitchat and after knowing me overnight. I want you to pursue me because commitments are really your thing.
I don’t want you to pursue me only to become an ex-girlfriend soon. I want you to understand that my concept of dating is to marry. Don’t pursue me because you want to experience the roller coaster of emotions in dating. Don’t pursue me when marriage is not on your list. I am preserving myself for someone who is godly enough to pursue me. The only time I would surely become your exgirlfriend is when you make me your wife.
I want you to pursue me because you see completeness in me and you see your future in me. Pursue me because you love all the little things about me – the good and the bad and you find them amazing. Pursue me because you want to be the one I will be writing about. Pursue me because you want to protect me. Pursue me because you want to spend Sunday mornings sipping coffee with me. Pursue me because I am your only choice. So if you’re going to choose between me and another person, then don’t pursue me. I want you to see that I am precious, a person who loves consistency. I don’t want to spend the aftermath with someone who constantly thinks if he made the right decision or not.

And most importantly, pursue me at the right time when we are stable enough that dating will be our topmost priority. Right now, I want you to build and prepare yourself before you pursue me. Get a degree, work hard, invest as early as now, grow spiritually, and do all the things that you love because I want to hear them all when we will finally be together. I don’t you want to be the man of my dream; however I want you to be a man of practicality. Don’t worry I’m not into searching for Mr. Right who forever stays as a far fetched noun, an ambiguity, and a mystery.

So at the right time, pick yourself up and come pursue me.